I'm one more naughty text away from asking my partner for a threesome

11/26/2024 12:45 PM

DEAR DEIDRE: ONE more naughty text from the gorgeous guy I fancy and I'll ask him to join me and my partner for a threesome.

I've been with my partner for 10 years but I'm a sexual woman who gets bored easily. I've had two affairs since I've been with my partner.

Both affairs ended when the men thought they were close to being rumbled by their wives, but my partner didn't have a clue.

Although I've been lucky so far and haven't been discovered, I worry I'd be pushing it a third time.

I love our little family though. We have a son of seven and my partner is 40. I'm 36 and I don't want to jeopardise that so I'm thinking of inviting my new interest into my marriage.

After all, my partner admitted recently that he has fantasised about seeing me have sex with another man.

It doesn't take much for me to have a wandering eye. So I was instantly drawn in when a great-looking guy opened a cafe, right next door to the card shop where I work.

I've visited every day and sure enough by the end of the week there was plenty of chemistry between us. 

He's 42. I may have told him a white lie – that I was in an open relationship. 

It just got me thinking how exciting our relationship could be with another person involved. 

This man is married and is looking for no-strings sex. We've already been exchanging naughty pictures. We even had video sex last night when my partner was away.

I have wondered if I might have an addiction to sex. Should I go ahead and talk to my partner about my proposal?

DEIDRE SAYS: You may have a sex addiction and undoubtedly you're seeking validation that you're worthy of love especially when your relationship loses its spark.

Perhaps you come from a cold background, where your family didn't show you love.

But don't be naive, bringing in a third party isn't a fail safe way to liven up your relationship.

Emotions become involved and if your partner isn't on board with this, he may feel inadequate or jealous that you want somebody else.

Voicing a fantasy is one thing but that is a world away from wanting to make it a reality.

My support packs Fancy A Threesome? and Can't Be Faithful may help you to have a better understanding of the risks and where this need to cheat is coming from.