Trolls say we're going to hell this Christmas because we're a throuple, it can be awkward but Santa doesn't discriminate
12/10/2024 08:25 AM
A THROUPLE who regularly get hate for their unusual relationship have shared how they celebrate Christmas.
Five years ago, Alana, 27 and Kevin, 33, decided it was time to make a drastic change by adding a third person to their romance.
The duo welcomed Megan, 37, after matching on the dating app 3Fun and officially becoming a trio.
They now lovingly refer to themselves as “Camp Throuple” online, where they have 180,000 followers.
The throuple have no regrets about their dating lifestyle but it's not been an easy ride, with judgemental trolls saying they are going "straight to hell.”
And while most people only have to battle with two sets of in-laws, they have three – a situation they admit can be "awkward" during Christmas time.
"As a throuple, we sometimes face challenges with family during the holidays," Alana told What's The Jam.
"There have been misunderstandings and awkward moments from those less familiar with our relationship.
"It's definitely all eyes on us whenever we attend a festive event together.
"Whether people already know about our relationship or are just meeting us for the first time, you can often feel the tension in the room.
"The funny thing is, our Christmas doesn't actually look as different as people think.
"There just happens to be three of us but we celebrate just like everyone else."
Thankfully, this Christmas, the trio – who live in Colorado, USA – don't need to make the dinner rounds, so are spared any tricky conversations.
"Since we live in another state, we don't spend the holidays with our families in person,” Alana said.
"We do video calls or send gifts instead, and plan visits at other times of the year.
"It just helps avoid any stress of splitting the time and lets us enjoy the holidays together."
The trio plan to spend Christmas Day going to the cinema and hanging out at home, wearing matching onesies.
What is polyamory?
Polyamory is the practice of having romantic relationships with more than one person at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of all parties.
It can refer to relationships where one person has multiple partners or spouses, or where all parties are in a relationship with each other, for example in a throuple.
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"Alana loves decorating, so she sets the scene in the house,” Kevin said.
"Megan is the cook and prepares whatever fantastic meal we have.
"We go to the movies in the morning and then spend the rest of the day together, snuggling, relaxing, having some hot cocoa, and, of course, watching football."
When it's time for bed, the trio make sure to keep things fair.
"We rotate [who is the middle spoon] every night,” Kevin revealed.
"We use the MAK and cheese method to stay in order."
"This simply means Megan, Alana and Kevin – this is how we remember who is in the middle, just the order we rotate in."
"One of us may let out a little snore here and there, but a quick nudge stops that."
Most people on the internet say that we're going straight to hell.
Kevin
Above all, Alana, Kevin, and Megan want to normalise their relationship and help people embrace that Christmas is a holiday that should welcome all types of love.
"The holidays don't have to look a certain way to be meaningful –what matters most is the love and intention behind how we spend them,” Megan said.
"Being able to forge new traditions together has been one of the most rewarding parts of our journey as a throuple."
Previously, Alana, Kevin, and Megan have shared tidbits of their day-to-day lives including that they wait in line to kiss and sleep in the same bed.
They also admit they are often asked if they want to add a fourth person to their trio – and the answer is no.
"Most people on the internet say that we're going straight to hell,” Kevin explained.
"But Santa Claus doesn't discriminate."
