I'm a 28-year-old female who's slept with over 300 men – it's a 'compulsion', I view them as my 'trophies'
10/31/2024 06:49 AM
A WOMAN explained how her compulsions have led her to sleep with over 300 men.
The 28-year-old revealed how she views her active sex life as collecting “trophies.”
In a Reddit post, the unnamed user detailed her views on her sexual history.
“I have been sexually active for around 13 years over which time I have been with around 300 different partners,” she revealed.
“My longest relationship during this time has lasted for a few months.”
The woman explained that she lives in a “big city” and “dates on occasion.”
However, she described her need to sleep with people as a “compulsion.”
“I will seek out a sexual partner like an alcoholic will seek out a drink,” she said.
“I would say it’s an addiction to the extent that it interferes with some aspects of my life negatively and that it is a behaviour that I am not proud of.”
Reflecting on some of her past experiences, the Reddit poster said: “The oddest are the ones where I feel really emotionally connected to the person, it can be quite overwhelming.”
“I get scared, I think, when I connect with someone emotionally,” she explained.
“I think my first thought is that they won’t stick around, so I’d rather not get my hopes up.”
While she has “been with women a few times,” the woman revealed why she prefers to sleep with men.
“I feel quite guilty using them for sex because I value their feelings more than those of a man,” she said.
“I do desire a lot of different men, I have an eye for them and if I see a guy I find attractive I am desperate to sleep with him, almost like he’s a trophy.”
The Redditor went on to say that she has a deeper motivation than sex.
“It’s not really about the sex, more the need to be accepted by someone for a short time,” she explained.
Dealing with sex addiction
IF you, or someone you know, is dealing with a sex addiction, here's everything you need to know...
Seek Professional Help: Consulting a therapist who specialises in sexual addiction can be very beneficial. Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic approaches can help address underlying issues and develop healthier coping mechanisms.
Join Support Groups: Connecting with others who are experiencing similar challenges can provide support and understanding. Groups such as Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) offer a safe space to share experiences and gain insights.
Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to avoid triggers and situations that may lead to addictive behaviours. This might include limiting internet usage, avoiding certain places, or ending unhealthy relationships.
Develop Healthy Habits: Engage in activities that promote well-being and fulfilment, such as exercise, hobbies, or volunteering. These can help redirect energy towards positive outlets.
Mindfulness and Stress Management: Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and yoga can help manage stress and reduce the urge to engage in addictive behaviours.
Education: Learning about sex addiction can help you understand your condition better and recognise patterns and triggers. Knowledge is a powerful tool in managing addiction.
Accountability: Having a trusted friend or sponsor to check in with can provide accountability and support. This person can help you stay on track with your recovery goals.
Avoid Isolation: Isolation can exacerbate addictive behaviours. Try to maintain social connections and seek out healthy relationships that offer support and companionship.
Set Realistic Goals: Recovery is a journey and setting small, achievable goals can help you stay motivated and track your progress.
Medication: In some cases, medication may be prescribed to help manage symptoms of sex addiction, particularly if there are co-occurring mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety.
“It’s not unusual for me to meet a guy in a bar or on the street and have him in a taxi back to my place within five minutes.”
The woman, who said she sometimes has sex with three or four different people in a week, revealed how her behaviour has effected her life.
“I know that most of the time I am having sex it is to validate myself or because of some other compulsion, I don’t think it is healthly,” she said.
“Also, my behaviour has got me into trouble before, with friends, family and other people and I think this indicated that I have a problem with the way I conduct myself sexually.
“It messes up my ability to have a stable relationship.”
The poster shared her wish to change her compulsions as she gets older.
“This is not something I would want to continue on into my thirties, I guess I’m hoping I might grow out of it,” she said.
