Bride's Longtime Friend 'Really Hurt' That She Is Only Asking Family Members to Be Bridesmaids
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03/24/2025 04:09 PM
The "toxic" friend "makes everything about her all the time," the bride-to-be wrote on Reddit
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Upset bridesmaid (stock image)A woman is keeping her bridal party family-only, and her close — but "toxic" — friend is not okay with it.
The newly engaged woman shared her friend's reaction in a recent Reddit post labeled "need to vent" on the platform's "Wedding Drama" forum. "So hear me out," she kicked off her post before sharing her side of the story.
The bride explained that she got engaged two months ago, so she and her fiancé have only just started wedding planning. They've begun organizing the basics and logistics of the ceremony, including setting the wedding date, which is more than two years away.
Issues arose when the pair started mapping out their wedding party. The bride-to-be decided that she will only include family members — much to her friend's disappointment.
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A stock image of a woman yelling at a bride"My friend of 10 years (she lived with me in high school) is really hurt that I plan to have my sister in law, sister, and cousin in my wedding with no friends in my wedding because she thought she'd be in it because we're 'family,'" the bride wrote.
In response to the bride's decision, her friend accused her of not "[valuing] our friendship the same" and blocked her on social media, among other things, according to the Reddit post.
Their friendship "has always been very toxic," according to the bride.
"I'm frustrated because we haven't even planned our wedding and she makes everything about her all the time," she said.
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Though the bride simply vented in her post, rather than ask other Reddit users for advice, many still weighed in on the situation — and most agreed that not only was the bride's friend in the wrong, but that she also was never a "true friend" to begin with.
"What's the problem...she already did you a favor," the top comment reads. "Keep her blocked, doesn't matter how long you've known her, she's toxic. You allow her to treat you like garbage."
Echoing this, another user penned, "Agree 100%! Problem solved. Enjoy your wedding without her dragging you down."
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A stock image of a bridal partyMany Redditors said that the friend's decision to block the bride was actually a blessing in disguise.
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"She did you a favor by blocking you. She probably would have been a nightmare," one user wrote, while another added, "Yep, do not invite her into the wedding party out of pity, nor to the wedding (Say, well you blocked me, I took the hint that you didn't want to attend. I'm not the one who through our friendship away, you did)."
"If she's still toxic after all of this time, then she'll find a way to ruin your wedding," the user concluded.
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"True friends or family would be understanding of that sort of thing," another Redditor wrote in part. "For her to [straight] up block you is so immature. You have every right to choose who you want next to you and if it's only family, so be it."
