Bride Refuses to Let Groom Perform Heavy Metal Songs at Their Wedding: 'His Music Will Ruin the Vibe'

03/24/2025 04:15 PM

"He thinks it'll be a good opportunity to include everyone because he thinks they won't enjoy the [reception] if we only play 'normal' music," the bride wrote on Reddit

A bride isn't seeing eye to eye with her groom when it comes to their wedding music.

The 26-year-old bride detailed the dilemma in a post on Reddit's popular "Am I the A------" forum, explaining that she and her fiancé — who are getting married next year — got into a "pretty big fight" while discussing the "music" portion of their wedding reception. 

She shared that while she would prefer to play "music you usually hear at weddings" because she wants their wedding to be a "party," her 32-year-old fiancé "is a metalhead and enjoys very heavy music." The bride explained that her husband-to-be even creates his own music — which he wants to play at the wedding so he and his friends "can have a mosh pit."

"He thinks it'll be fun and a good opportunity to include everyone because he thinks they won't enjoy the rest of the evening if we only play 'normal' wedding music," the bride wrote. "And I think I am appealing to what most people want/expect from a wedding with the music choices."

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"I also think that playing his music will ruin the vibe for a lot of people and the dance floor will end early and no one will be into the party anymore after a heavy metal song starts playing and there's a potential mosh pit," she added.

The bride noted that she doesn't think his friends would notice or care if 'their music' plays or not. She also said that her family accounts for about 80% of the wedding guest list since the groom didn't want to invite "a lot of his family due to personal reasons."

However, she said her fiancé is "adamant" that they play the heavy metal music — and described it as a "make-or-break" decision.

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She also shared that, up until this point, she had made many of the wedding decisions herself as her fiancé didn't "really care about any part of the process" until the issue of the music came up. She explained, "Most of the decisions have been on me, aside [from] a few menu choices, as every time I ask for his input, he says he doesn't care and to do whatever I want."

The bride claims her fiancé told her that he felt she was "making the day all about me and not anything he wants because of this." She then asked fellow Redditors if she's "being a bridezilla or if he's being unreasonable with this request."

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Several commenters sided with the groom, arguing that he should get some kind of input in the wedding — especially with something he's so passionate about — since it's "his day too."

One person suggested, "Let him have a few songs. It won't be the end of the world. Let him be happy."

Another Reddit user made the point that since it's the couple's wedding and the bride and groom are the main focus, "no one else gets to pass judgment or have a say in how things go," including when it comes to the music.

They added, "I think while the mosh pit is a bit unusual, anyone who's attending your wedding should love you and your partner, and find the humor in it. It's supposed to be a fun night of celebration. This is obviously something your partner cares about — let him have some fun."